Generation - Past, Present, Future
I always imagine, whenever I see the generations younger to me, what is happening. Forget the people who are 10 years or more younger to me. There is a drastic change in people who are 2 - 6 years younger. I find lot of their views unacceptable & difficult to digest.
I had a discussion with one of my junior colleagues on marriage & parenthood.
One of them, a lady, is thinking whether to get married or not. She has seen most of her close friends getting divorced over silly matters. Any amount of counselling did not help in reconciliation in their marriages. This left her giving a 2nd thought about getting married.
Two of my male junior colleagues think that if they have children of their own, they will loose their freedom. They would have to put the kid's priorities above them & the expenses will definitely increase. One of them said, "I doubt whether I would be able to give a lifestyle to my kid which my parents were able to give me. Hence me & my wife are thinking whether to have a child or no."
God knows what is happening to the people around me. I don't understand how a few years of difference would change the thinking to such a drastic extent.
I happened to read a magazine - GOSUMAG - '11 circulated in the place of my work, Seth G. S. Medical College & K. E. M. Hospital. This magazine is designed by the undergraduate students of the institute. Reading the articles written by certain students left me surprised & stunned.
One of the articles written by some intern describes a failing relation. The husband falls in love with someone else. He found, over the years, that his wife had gone out of shape, smelled of masala & behaved erratically. She was no more the same young, beautiful, sexy secretary that the husband had fallen in love with years ago. He choose to leave her & love somebody else.
The 2nd article was in the form of pictures. Three pictures have been shown. In the 1st picture the girl is telling the would be groom that she is ready to devote her time in her life for the well being of her family. The would be groom promises to be faithful & keep her happy. This picture depicts the scene of the past era. The 2nd picture shows that the girl tells the would be groom that she might not be able to take care of the grooms parents & but might help if help is required. The would be groom says that these matters hardly matter as far as the girl is bringing a good, fat salary home. This probably depicts the current scenario. The 3rd picture shows a boy calling her pregnant girl friend & asking her whether she would have time to attend her own wedding. The girl friend responds by telling that she would have to check out for the dates. This, probably would be the scenario of the future.
I had a certain weird views about marriage & parenthood about a few years back. But as it is said to swim you have to actually fall in the water. Likewise to experience marriage & parenthood you have to take the plunge to know what they are all about. Yes it is difficult, extremely difficult to live with a partner who makes life a living hell. In such cases living alone would be the best option. But marriage is a biggest stress buster if the partner is good. Being a parent takes a relationship to a certain higher level. And whats more great than becoming a mother, one of the best creations to be created by God. Not experiencing both just by keeping certain prejudices in mind would be stupidity. And today's generations have loads of them.
Comparison between relations in the past, present & future is futile. Such scenes as depicted in the pictorial story mentioned above cannot & must not be generalized. Calculating statistics regarding the compatibility, the types of personalities & various other parameters pertaining to marriage, in the past, present & future would be useless. Relations best worked in the past & would least work in the future; how can such a comparison be done? A relationship would work, in any circumstances, & in any era; everything is in the mind, if one wants, it will work, or else no.
Crime is another point which I wanna discuss.
I happened to a serial CRIME PATROL. This serial brings to the audience real life crimes in a dramatized form. I happened to see on of its episodes yesterday.
2 teenage boys join some college to pursue higher education. Both are from good families. They stay as paying guests in an old professor's home near their college. They are frequently caught by the old man for stealing money, alcohol & many other things. The old man advises them against it & finally complains about them to their parents. Angered by the old man's actions the 2 teenage boys murder the old man. Reason - the old man had lot's of money. If some money was used by those boys who were not in any way related to that old man; why should anybody object. The old man objected, he had to die.
These younger generations have strange ideas & thoughts. These big incidences as mentioned above start from small things. A simple example I have experienced in my classroom is Proxy in person, hearing music or playing games during lectures, teasing the teachers are just a few examples. Smaller incidences lead to bigger crimes. But today's children don't understand. They show something to their elders in abundance & i.e.ATTITUDE.
The respect, that unknown fear which we experienced when we were undergraduates, is almost absent. But as I said above, a lot depends upon the environment & the culture in which a person is brought up. Also, a person who only has positive thoughts in mind would do positive for self, family & society. Age does not play a role in this. Yes, younger a person, greater energy to pursue positivity & it's effects but good actions can be exhibited at any age, any time, any place.
I just wanted to express my thoughts & hence this post.
I had a discussion with one of my junior colleagues on marriage & parenthood.
One of them, a lady, is thinking whether to get married or not. She has seen most of her close friends getting divorced over silly matters. Any amount of counselling did not help in reconciliation in their marriages. This left her giving a 2nd thought about getting married.
Two of my male junior colleagues think that if they have children of their own, they will loose their freedom. They would have to put the kid's priorities above them & the expenses will definitely increase. One of them said, "I doubt whether I would be able to give a lifestyle to my kid which my parents were able to give me. Hence me & my wife are thinking whether to have a child or no."
God knows what is happening to the people around me. I don't understand how a few years of difference would change the thinking to such a drastic extent.
I happened to read a magazine - GOSUMAG - '11 circulated in the place of my work, Seth G. S. Medical College & K. E. M. Hospital. This magazine is designed by the undergraduate students of the institute. Reading the articles written by certain students left me surprised & stunned.
One of the articles written by some intern describes a failing relation. The husband falls in love with someone else. He found, over the years, that his wife had gone out of shape, smelled of masala & behaved erratically. She was no more the same young, beautiful, sexy secretary that the husband had fallen in love with years ago. He choose to leave her & love somebody else.
The 2nd article was in the form of pictures. Three pictures have been shown. In the 1st picture the girl is telling the would be groom that she is ready to devote her time in her life for the well being of her family. The would be groom promises to be faithful & keep her happy. This picture depicts the scene of the past era. The 2nd picture shows that the girl tells the would be groom that she might not be able to take care of the grooms parents & but might help if help is required. The would be groom says that these matters hardly matter as far as the girl is bringing a good, fat salary home. This probably depicts the current scenario. The 3rd picture shows a boy calling her pregnant girl friend & asking her whether she would have time to attend her own wedding. The girl friend responds by telling that she would have to check out for the dates. This, probably would be the scenario of the future.
I had a certain weird views about marriage & parenthood about a few years back. But as it is said to swim you have to actually fall in the water. Likewise to experience marriage & parenthood you have to take the plunge to know what they are all about. Yes it is difficult, extremely difficult to live with a partner who makes life a living hell. In such cases living alone would be the best option. But marriage is a biggest stress buster if the partner is good. Being a parent takes a relationship to a certain higher level. And whats more great than becoming a mother, one of the best creations to be created by God. Not experiencing both just by keeping certain prejudices in mind would be stupidity. And today's generations have loads of them.
Comparison between relations in the past, present & future is futile. Such scenes as depicted in the pictorial story mentioned above cannot & must not be generalized. Calculating statistics regarding the compatibility, the types of personalities & various other parameters pertaining to marriage, in the past, present & future would be useless. Relations best worked in the past & would least work in the future; how can such a comparison be done? A relationship would work, in any circumstances, & in any era; everything is in the mind, if one wants, it will work, or else no.
Crime is another point which I wanna discuss.
I happened to a serial CRIME PATROL. This serial brings to the audience real life crimes in a dramatized form. I happened to see on of its episodes yesterday.
2 teenage boys join some college to pursue higher education. Both are from good families. They stay as paying guests in an old professor's home near their college. They are frequently caught by the old man for stealing money, alcohol & many other things. The old man advises them against it & finally complains about them to their parents. Angered by the old man's actions the 2 teenage boys murder the old man. Reason - the old man had lot's of money. If some money was used by those boys who were not in any way related to that old man; why should anybody object. The old man objected, he had to die.
These younger generations have strange ideas & thoughts. These big incidences as mentioned above start from small things. A simple example I have experienced in my classroom is Proxy in person, hearing music or playing games during lectures, teasing the teachers are just a few examples. Smaller incidences lead to bigger crimes. But today's children don't understand. They show something to their elders in abundance & i.e.ATTITUDE.
The respect, that unknown fear which we experienced when we were undergraduates, is almost absent. But as I said above, a lot depends upon the environment & the culture in which a person is brought up. Also, a person who only has positive thoughts in mind would do positive for self, family & society. Age does not play a role in this. Yes, younger a person, greater energy to pursue positivity & it's effects but good actions can be exhibited at any age, any time, any place.
I just wanted to express my thoughts & hence this post.
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